Your Child's Best Teacher...Is You

Being a parent is like guessing what is behind door number two..You get what you get and you make the most of it by loving and caring and taking care of your precious bundle.

The closer you come to unconditional love the easier it becomes to make it through the moments, the days, weeks, months and years of raising your family. You see, unconditional love means exactly that—you love your child no matter what: no matter who he is, no matter who he is not; no matter what he does, no matter what he fails to do; no matter what he says, no matter what he fails to say and so on.

There is no loving him when he fulfills your picture of how he should be and withdrawing that love to any degree when he is different from your expectations. Accepting your child exactly as he is at all times—that is the only unconditional love there is.

Here is the big secret to parenting: love is ALWAYS unconditional. Love is given freely because you want to give it and for no other reason.

Well, so how does one come to a place of unconditional love? There is no how-to here. There is no thinking about it. You do not work at it. To love—you just do it.

Being In Service,
Ali Bierman

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Simplicity

Today's children lead stressful lives. There is so much to do, so many places to be, so many roles to play. Parents have to be expert time managers.
LIttle kids are bombarded with cell phones and iPods, computers and electronic games. Over the holiday season I met a dad who said he told his two year old to choose a handful of toys she would actually play with so they could give the rest away to needy kids.

Kids and adults alike get so preoccupied with things they forget to connect to people as people. For some families sitting down to watch a movie is considered doing something together. It is--if you talk about the movie afterward.

Notice the many ways you and your child have interference and walls to prevent your simply talking with one another:the electronic games, radios, ipods (that keep you from hearing what your child is listening to.

What ever happened to talking and playing gamaes that are free from electronics and gadgets. Does anyone ever gather around the piano or pull out the guitars and sing together any more?
My famikly did that when I was small and the family I raised did too. Makes for lots of smiles, hugs and just plain enjoyment of one another.
Something to think about. Children grow up so fast--in the blink of an eye they are out the door! Create memories you will treasure forever.

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Ali Bierman

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Ask Ali A Question Today

Once again it is time for you to pose the questions you want me to address on my onthly teleseminar, Wednesday, February 22,2006. Simply post your question as a reply to this post. Then go here for the call schedule. I will meet you on the call Wednesday night at 9 PM EST.

For a chance to win a copy of Ali's ebook, Parents, Are You Making These 17 Mistakes With Your Child enter this month's contest by submitting your recipe for family fun on road trips at Recipes For Living

Low Self Esteem Has Many Faces

The Many Faces Of Low Self Esteem

A common mistake parents make is thinking that a high achiever is a person with high self esteem. Guess what—high self esteem is not about what you do or what you achieve. High self esteem happens when someone knows, with every cell of his being and every ether of his spirit, that in every moment of every day, no matter what is going on in his life, he knows he is fine.
Someone with high self esteem knows that the most horrendous event will be handled. There may be unfathomable pain in the processand all will be well at some point in time. The reason people survive and bounce back is they have high self esteem. The strength that carries him through the challenges is high self esteem. That he is able to view problems as opportunities to grow is high self esteem.
Parents tend to be concerned when their child is withdrawn, sad or even depressed, when he seems to lack enthusiasm for life. Yes, all those behaviors may also be symptoms of low self esteem. And realize they may be symptoms of physical issues too, completely unrelated to the cause of the child’s outward moods. When a child is out there smiling and being almost bigger than life maybe he is in a great space with high self esteem. And maybe it is all a show. Maybe it is all an act to protect himselfor you, his parent. Just maybe he is afraid to let you down because he doesn’t know he will be loved if he is not the “star” and the “best” at everything he does.
It is funny when you stop and notice that psychologists explain away “bad” behaviors as calls for help, attempts to get attention. They may even suggest that refusing to give the child the desired attention is the solution to that problem. I am talking about a kid who is so desperate for love (in the guise of punishment) he is willing to act in ways he knows are undesirablejust to know someone cares enough to stop him.
Unfortunately parents stop the behavior because they are embarrassed or feel disempowered by an unruly child rather than to help the child gain acceptance. Does anyone like a child who “breaks the rules” and behaves in ways that take attention from others? Do “troublemakers” have any friends?
What about those super star kids? Their good behavior just may be a call for attention too. For them, the action and award or achievement gets is noticed and praised rather than the child who pure and simple, is lovable for doing nothing other than exist.
Think a moment. How does your child ask for your attention? In what form do you give it to him? Hugging and "I love you just because you are you." work really well.

Being In Service,
Ali Bierman

Revealing the secrets to raising "Kids Who Can"--can be, do and be anything they want to life in life.

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Your Child's Best Teacher...Is You

Your child’s best teacher…is you!

If you’re a parent you are a role model. Whether you want to be or not, whether you think you know what you are doing or not—whether you relinquish that responsibility or not you are the role model for your kid and he will do exactly as you do or the exact opposite of what you do. You can choose to take charge of how and what you are teaching your child.

Have you ever heard yourself say, ”He never does what I say.” Well, that is because he does what you do not what you say. How about this one, “How can he be so much like his uncle when they rarely see one another?”

Consider that you treat people certain ways based upon past interactions or what you deem to be the expected behavior in the moment. You may not even be aware you do this. May not? You definitely are not aware or you would be living consciously making conscious choices!

The way you treat people is what determines their interpretations of who you are. They interact with you in a way they deem appropriate—which is likely to be different from how they interact with Joe Shmoe.

I believe my son is so much like my brother, despite their infrequent interactions, because as a kid I (unconsciously) observed how my mom interacted with my brother. I bet if someone could record and describe my interactions with my son and my mom’s interactions with my brother during his youth—I bet they would be very very similar. Yet, on the surface, I am not like my mom. Our parenting styles are quite opposite one another.

You either do what your parents do or you do the exact opposite.

What if you could KNOW what you are doing? Do you think that information would make a difference in your life and the life of your family? You can. I can show you what you ARE doing and what you COULD BE doing instead.

Being In Service,
Ali Bierman

We Are At Once Teacher And Student Productions, LLC
P.O. Box 1692
Culpeper, VA 22701

856-656-0529
info@weareatonceteacherandstudent.com

Being In Service,
Ali Bierman

We Are At Once Teacher And Student Productions, LLC
P.O. Box 1692
Culpeper, VA 22701

856-656-0529
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Your Child's Best Teacher...Is You

Parenting Can Feel Scary

Your child looks to you to meet his or her every need? How do you know what to do?

Hey, you are the adult. Guess. Only act confident so you will at least convince yourself you know what you are doing. And guess what, when you act as if you know what you are doing you will gain confidence in how and what you are doing and everyone will be fine.

Will all be Donna Reed perfect? No. Was the Donna Reed show real? Do people live perfect lives? How boring would life be if everyone and everything went according to our wishes and dreams? Where would the challenge be? How about the surprises that make life interesting and even exciting?

The good news is you do not have to be perfect. Children are flexible and resilient. Yeah, they really are. They will survive no matter what you do or do not do in your parenting learning experience.

Just take responsibility for the choices you make.
Will you always make the right choices? In the big picture, yes, you will always make the right choices. At first some of your choices may appear to be far from optimal. Everything is always perfect in the Universe. You do not have to understand how or why things work. You CHOOSE to trust.

As a role model, realize the valuable lesson you teach your child when you make a choice, act on that choice and trust your choice to be the best in the situation. Congratulations on being bold! Feel the fear and take action anyway!

Now that's effective parenting!

Being In Service,
Ali Bierman

Revealing the secrets to raising "Kids Who Can"--can be, do and be anything they want to life in life.

http://www.KidsWhoCan.com
http://doiop.com/kidswhocan

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856-656-0529
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Your Child's Best Teacher...Is You

Being a parent is like guessing what is behind door number two..You get what you get and you make the most of it by loving and caring and taking care of your precious bundle.

The closer you come to unconditional love the easier it becomes to make it through the moments, the days, weeks, months and years of raising your family. You see, unconditional love means exactly that—you love your child no matter what: no matter who he is, no matter who he is not; no matter what he does, no matter what he fails to do; no matter what he says, no matter what he fails to say and so on.

There is no loving him when he fulfills your picture of how he should be and withdrawing that love to any degree when he is different from your expectations. Accepting your child exactly as he is at all times—that is the only unconditional love there is.

Here is the big secret to parenting: love is ALWAYS unconditional. Love is given freely because you want to give it and for no other reason.

Well, so how does one come to a place of unconditional love? There is no how-to here. There is no thinking about it. You do not work at it. To love—you just do it.

Being In Service,
Ali Bierman

We Are At Once Teacher And Student Productions, LLC
P.O. Box 1692
Culpeper, VA 22701

856-656-0529
info@weareatonceteacherandstudent.com

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